My heart and soul are in this work because I know how devastating high performance anxiety can be.
Growing up, I used to hide in the choir loft so I couldn’t be seen while singing a solo. I hated the limelight and hoped I wouldn’t be noticed when I was the high scorer in basketball or when I earned honors in other areas.
Are you one of those people who hides your talents and accomplishments? Whose knees shake and voice quails if you have to present a speech or compete in your sport or ask the boss for a raise? Are you someone who thinks you just can’t do it (or do it “well enough”)—whatever “it” is?
Imagine what you could do if you didn’t have that thought in mind.
How I started working with EFT
When Eye-Movement Desensitization Re-Processing (EMDR) first emerged in the 1990s, I recognized the value this could bring to my counseling clients and I began training in and using the technique with a passion. A few years later, when Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) was developed, I took an immediate interest in it as a quicker and more portable method that clients could learn easily and apply to themselves to get powerful results.
The first person I used EFT on was myself to overcome my profound performance anxiety as a vocalist. I love to sing but it got to the point where I didn’t know if I wanted to hide or exult when asked to sing for an event.
But once I knew how to use this modality, I achieved amazing results. A difficult Vivaldi solo went beautifully; a composer commented on my improved confidence and tone, asking what I had done; and a performance at a National Basketball Association exhibition came off perfectly. There I stood, before thousands of people to sing “The Star-Spangled Banner.” I had used the EFT methods ahead of time and, instead of feeling the familiar anxiety, I stayed calm and cool—even though the microphone didn’t start on time and even though I had to run a gauntlet of 7-foot giants to the middle of the court. That performance turned out to be one of the best I had given up to that point in my career. I give EFT credit for allowing me to achieve that.
I feel firsthand the joy of being able to use my singing gifts more freely. I see the amazing gifts in each of my clients and believe in their ability to break through what’s holding them back. It’s now easy to do, as we apply these cutting-edge technologies in an artful way. Both my clients and I express one consistent result: Joy and Freedom. Come get yours!